Tuesday, September 18, 2007

The Most Wonderful Friend

It is no secret that it has been difficult for us to move to Northern California. While we absolutely love living near my family, it is away from the home that we've lived in for the past 22 years: Orange County.

It is also no secret that it has been somewhat difficult for us to make new friends. I made a few friends during my credential program, but most moved away after they finished their credentials. I had one good friend up here when I moved to Sacramento, but after having her as a bridesmaid in my wedding a few months ago, she announced essentially that she was not mature enough to continue our friendship - a blow that was utterly devastating, to say the least. Mr. Howard has made wonderful friends at work, but given the nature of his position, most are old enough to be his father (in fact, some even have kids older than us) and the few double dates we've gone on with them have been a bit of a struggle (its like going on a double date with your parents). The people that are his age, unfortunately, are his employees and who wants to go out with their boss on a friday night? In Orange County we had a whole group of people we would go on group dates with (Allison & Jack, Jen & Brett, Sara & Nate, Lauren & Josh) and then of course, I had all my sorority sisters (Allison, Sara, Mary, Kaylene, Amy, Jen and soo many others). Here, it is not so easy and we currently have NO DOUBLE DATING PARTNERS! :-( All in all, it's been a rough transition.

If not for one special friend, the transition would have been impossible. In fact, we probably would have given up and maybe even simply retreated into our home never to be seen again). She has truly been my sister (no...literally...she was appointed my big sister in our sorority). And that person (which, I'm sure by now you have discovered from the picture) is Miss Jen Groover...Jen is truly a best friend - one of those people you pray you'll find in your lifetime. While she remains in Orange County and I don't get to see her as often as I'd like, my life is continually touched by her. She grounds me, serves as my sounding board, and makes me laugh. When I was in my year of craziness (master's degree, wedding, BTSA, first year of teaching, moving) it would have been easy for her to write me off and tell me what a bad friend I was (and, trust me, I wasn't the most wonderful friend), but instead she constantly offered to help me, told me it was okay that I didn't call her for two weeks, and listened to my 12 hour long explanation for why I hadn't returned her calls. It is for this reason that I am writing this blog. Jen, I love you! I do not know what I would do without you! I absolutely COULD NOT have successfully gotten through the wedding without you by my side and I so wish that we could drop everything and move back to be closer to you and Brett, but will just have to settle with a long distance friendship for a while (unless, of course, you and Brett see Sacramento in your future).

Just wanted to share with the blogging world, how lucky I am to have you, Jen, in my life!

3 comments:

Katie Taylor said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Yeah that was a real shame that you lost that perticular friend! But you two are better off without her! And you can always call Denny and I up to go out to dinner and a movie!! I love you!

Jennifer said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

To the best Lil Sis in the world~
Thank you SO MUCH for the wonderful blog. You made me cry! (Though I am a bit of a cry baby) It is I too who am so lucky to have you in my life. Let's face it-who else would tolerate my phone calls at 7:15am on a weekday?!? Anyone who has you as a friend is incredibly lucky. Thank you for just being your fabulous self! I knew it.... I just knew it.... From the moment we first chatted, I knew you HAD to be my Lil Sis. (Which I still feel a bit silly about seeing that I am positive that I have learned more from you than vice versa).
Love ya to the moon and back (Luke too!) Jen

LittleDreamer said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Given that my best friend moved to NY for grad school one month and 5 days ago, I completely relate to this. It's been difficult, but I think it shows just how important that individual is because of the extra time and effort we expend to stay in touch. It was very nice of you to post this. It certainly reminded me of Christina.

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