Saturday, March 20, 2010

Do you love your child more?

In my monthly installment of Parents Magazine, there was an article titled Everything I know About Being a Mom...I learned from my second child (with apologies to my firstborn) and it got me thinking...

In one poignant part, Castagnoli says "As for my heart, I loved David [husband], of course, but I was head over heels in love with Conrad.... I was worried that I loved my son more than I loved my husband." How many of you moms felt this way?

I have never felt that way with Connor. I adore him, love him more than life itself. I love watching him. I think he's the most brilliant baby in the whole world. I happily take thousands of photos of him and beg people to look at them. I'd give up my life for him. In the fleeting moments when I think about something happening to him, I crumble. He is my light, my joy, and my true gift from God. BUT I feel the same way about my husband. Sure, it's a different kind of love. Sure, it's a very different kind of feeling. But I have never worried about loving Connor more. For me, it is the same way with the love I have for my parents v. the love for my husband. Niether is more or less...just VERY different.

Mamas: What are your feelings? Did you ever worry about this? Am I in the minority?


courtney said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I was trying to think of a way to respond to this because there are so many ways to...I think it is impossible to love anyone the same. I would die for all my kids and hubby, they are all my light, world etc, but they are 4 different people, so I treat them differently, express love and affection differently etc, because it would impossible to be the same with all 4 of them..maybe that is why the writer felt that way? She isnt realizing the difference as the same amount?

The Schult Family said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I agree that my love for my child and my husband are equally strong, though very different. I do find myself being very aware to make sure that I give equal attention (time and nurturing) to both child and husband... as I know it is commonplace for the Daddies to sometimes feel left out :) ...D

lynda said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

No, I always loved my husband more, until my second child was born......I'm obviously kidding! Jackie you know my sick sense of humor and I couldn't resist.
I too loved and love all of you equally and yet different (as Courtney explained). There were times when Dad got 'pushed back' in priority, but even then, the love was balance. This is a good thing because once you three were grown, it is once again just Dad and me.

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