Thursday, January 20, 2011

Frequently Asked Questions

We have received such an outpouring of support. Thank you!! A lot of you have questions and I thought it'd be fun to answer them here. =)

Do twins run in the family?

No. I always thought they did. My great aunts are twins, but they are identical. I never knew until having my own twins that only fraternal twins are genetic. So, no. Twins do not run in my family.

Are you going back to work?
Yes. We've looked at a few different options, in terms of me working half time and sharing a contract, and believe it or not, even with paying for three kids in daycare, it is still much more cost effective for me to work. If I didn't love what I did, I could easily see trading in the $20,000 dollars saving and quitting my job, but I love what I do and CERTAINLY don't do it for the paycheck I get. I think teaching and being a mommy are what I was put here on earth to do and in the same way I wouldn't give up Connor, I can't give up all the kids I get to be a mama/psychologist/police officer/nurse/guidance counselor/and so much more to each year. Although, I have to say, that if I thought that Connor was suffering by me working, I would easily choose Connor over those kids. But, I think it is just the opposite. I've said this before. For me, personally, I am a better mommy because I have an outlet during the day. On the weeks and months when I stay home with Connor full time, I am haggard and run-down and pray for naps. It is so incredibly hard. SO hard! I have the utmost respect for full-time Mommies and it is for that reason that I feel so blessed to have a preschool that loves my children and gives Connor experiences I simply can't.

Are your twins fraternal or identical?
We won't know for 100% sure until they are born and are genetically tested. However, it appears as though they are fraternal with two placentas. There are, however, a small percentage of identical twins who do have two placentas too. But for now, the doctors are comfortable calling them fraternal.

Are you nervous about having two?
I am only nervous about delivering two beautiful, healthy babies. I know that twins will be hard...harder than we can plan for. But, nothing can be harder than planning your baby's funeral and holding his beautiful body in your arms, knowing that it will be the very last time you see him on earth. Nothing. Nothing can be harder than wondering why you were chosen to deliver a stillborn. Nothing. Nothing can be harder than reading an autopsy report talking about your son's body parts as if they were in a medical textbook. Nothing. Nothing can be harder than going to a crematorium and picking out a resting place for the ashes of a baby you just held a week earlier. Nothing. Nothing can be harder than opening the beautiful photos the hospital took of your son holding a rose, dressed in the only outfit he'll ever get to wear here on earth. Absolutely nothing. So, am I nervous about raising two babies and all the sleepless nights? Absolutely not. We are blessed. I pray that some day I feel worthy of this most special blessing. Because while we are being honored with our second and third precious babies, there are people in this world praying to be given the privelege even once. I will not take that for granted for one tiny second.

4 comments:

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I love you!

Christina said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Beautifully said!

The Schult Family said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

You are such an amazing woman and outstanding mother! ...D

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you guys will rock at this. You can totally handle it. You are a strong parental team.

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