5 hours ago
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Another thing that has been on my heart lately has been my desire to work. It's been so fascinating because I have always heard stay-at-home moms say that they're not respected or their job is not valued. I am blessed because every summer I get to be one and I can honestly say that it is the HARDEST job on the planet. There is no doubt in my mind that their job is incredibly worthy of respect.
But what I have experienced is the opposite. I get asked constantly, "you're going to stay home, right?" When I explain that I'm going back to work, I get the "REALLY?!?" Do you think Mr. Howard ever gets asked if he's going to stay home with them? Do you think anyone would say, "REALLY?!" to him if he told them he was going back? There's a part of me that would love to stay home and then there's a part of me that would go insane. It is SUCH a hard job and for me, personally, I don't think I'm as good of a mama when I'm home all day. I know women who can do it. I'm able to thoroughly enjoy the two and a half months I'm home. I cook; I deep clean; I play with Connor; we read; we go to parks; we laugh; we paint...but then I start to feel myself craving that adult interaction. I love, love, love the people I work with. And I SERIOUSLY love my job. And of course, if I ever felt like my children were being sacrificed, I would quit in a minute. But, that is not the case. The daycare/preschool they go to is spectacular. They have themes every day; they get healthy food all day; they read books and do crafts that go along with the theme; Connor learns how to interact with kids of all ages; they have puppet shows and learn how to dial 911 and learn about superheros and design their own superhero capes...and...and...and.
Why do we always have to knock women down? We criticize them if they stay-at-home. We criticise them if they choose to go back to work. We criticize women if they don't breastfeed. We criticize them if they send their kids to preschool. We criticize them if they can't cook or choose to wait to have kids...Why? Can't we just agree that everybody does the best that they can do. They make the best choices they know how to make. And let's celebrate moms of every make. If we didn't have moms who worked, who would teach our kids? If we didn't have moms who stayed home, our world would be missing some wonderful women fullfilling their calling.