Saturday, April 30, 2011
And I had to include this random photo below. This was taken last Sunday. I need to have Mr. Howard mow our lawn several times a week, because Little Man just stood at the window and watched - transfixed for probably 40 minutes. Seriously! Try it! I think I was able to watch an entire episode of Oprah while he stared out the window!
Friday, April 29, 2011
I know they could also use a lot of prayers and good thoughts.
Thursday, April 28, 2011
I need a pillow for under my belly now. The problem now is that I sleep with a pillow between my legs and when I need to roll over, I have to bring the pillow over to the other side. It causes me to usually sigh or make some audible sigh as I try to roll my big behind over to the other side. Ha! It's actually quite a sight and production
Week 27 marks the end of the second trimester of my twin pregnancy! Hallelujah!! Also, I've been feeling that HORRENDOUS pain in my ligaments and joints in my pelvis. I actually experienced something new last night. I've had round ligament pain before, but this was much lower and it felt like someone was stabbing me. Poor Mr. Howard! Once I found a position that didn't hurt, he slid me over on my side of the bed, so I didn't have to move. It's funny now, but it actually made my body shake it hurt so badly. I told him that if I could handle that, I could handle childbirth. Ha!
The Babies' Size/Development
Each baby is about 14 inches long form head to toe. That's 28 inches of baby!
The babies are finally making the outside of my belly move. For weeks, Mr. Howard has been able to feel kicks and rolls and somersaults, but now you can actually watch my belly pop, quiver, shake, and roll. WHAT AN AMAZING THING!!!!
Random Twin Fact
William Shakespeare fathered a set of boy/girl twins.
Monday, April 25, 2011
Did you know that lots of stores offer "Twin Discounts?" We were going to only buy one matching crib (to match the one Connor currently uses) and then get a more simple one for Connor's big boy room. But when I received a coupon in the mail for 20% off of one furniture item and we combined it with the twin discount, we got almost $200 off the cribs. It ended up being 30% off one crib and 10% off the other. My parents were gracious enough to buy the second crib for us and then we bought the one that will go in Connor's big boy room!
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Everytime we go down to Los Angeles, Jen and I get a manicure and pedicure. She must know that it's the only time I actually get one. How can Mr. Howard say no to watching Little Man when it's Jen who wants to go?!? Hehe!
We also always get our rings cleaned because the place that we bought our rings checks the diamonds, cleans them, and re-dips the white gold for me for free. It also allows us to maintain our warranty.
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Friday, April 22, 2011
It's insane how I never thought about women who have babies in heaven before. No. I will not have three babies. I am not a mom of three. Three is not a perfect number. We have four babies and I am a mom of four. I know wholeheartedly that people don't mean any harm when they make comments. I know they don't know any different and to be honest, I don't know that I wouldn't have been one of those people two years ago.
I have become a whole lot more comfortable sharing a tiny bit of my story with strangers. After all, a mom who lost a son told me, "what do you care what they think anyway?" If I make them feel uncomfortable, so what? Inevitably someone will say to me after they find out that it was not through fertility treatments and we don't have twins in the family, "Wow! Did you die when you found out you were having twins? Did you have to pick your husband off the floor? Did you cry?" And my answer has become my way of talking about Cole. "Actually, we lost our son in September. So we believe it is divine that a few short months later we were pregnant with twins."
My goal in writing this blog has always been first and foremost to document my life for my family - to keep a scrapbook for Connor, my future babies, and my husband. But the special, unexpected outcome has also been a way for me to share my story about loss. Perhaps I can give women and men (but let's be honest...mostly women read my blog) a fresh perspective about what it's like to lose a baby. And perhaps, I can help them to say the right thing if ever they have a friend who goes through something like this. Because at the end of the day, we all want to say the right thing. We want the magic words to ease the suffering of our friends and because we so want to say the perfect thing, we say the thing that hurts the most (at least you have another son...you can just try again...at least it happened earlier in the pregnancy...) instead of the words that we all pray someone will say (I love you. I'm sorry. This sucks. How much did he weigh? Whose eyes did he have? Who is he named after? When is his birthday?). Really what we want is to know that our babies are not forgotten, that our role as their mother is not forgotten, and that someone, somewhere in the world thinks it all sucks too.
While I've been thinking of my baby boy, I have been really trying to come up with ideas about what I can do to honor Cole on his birthday this fall. I have a bunch of thoughts, but the one idea that seems to continue to percolate in my brain (don't you love the word percolate...it's such an underused word) is to do something for the hospital or the NICU. I'll keep you updated about what I decide!
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Naps are fabulous! Yesterday, I dropped Little Man off at preschool and crawled in bed for almost three hours! Good thing too, because at night I'm still waking up multiple times.
Oops! I completely forgot to ask my doctor my measurements.
The Babies' Size/Growth
The babies' eyes may open and blink at week 26 and retinas are beginning to form. The air sacs of the lungs are taking shape this week as well. Even though the lungs are still growing, they still have to mature for babies to be able to breath without help. Before 20 weeks of gestation, each twin is usually the same size as a singleton fetus of equivalent age. After 20 weeks, each twin tends to grow more slowly. That's why twins, even if not premature, tend to have a lower than average birth weight.
Random Twin Fact
Female fraternal twins have a one in 17 chance of giving birth to their own set of fraternal twins. Miss Isabella Lynn better be ready for the possibility of having twins.
Normally we hear back about the results right away. When Mr. Howard and I had our ultrasounds we got a phone call that night. When we had Cole's ultrasound, we got the call from the geneticist that day. When I had Aiden's ultrasound, they told us right there at the appointment. So we were more than surprised when we went to bed Tuesday night not having talked to a doctor. By Wednesday, I was nervous. I sent an email to our geneticist asking her if she had heard anything. By this morning I was formulating theories in my head: perhaps the results were not good and they needed to speak with a nephrologist (kidney doctor) to formulate a plan for Connor...perhaps they were trying to see if he would need surgery to have his kidney removed...
This morning I woke up thinking I couldn't let it go any longer and so I phoned the geneticist and left her a message. Within about 20 minutes, she called back, apologising. Apparently the notification had gone to the genetics doctors and they are all out this week (for Easter). She didn't even know that no one had called us. Happily she told us that Connor's kidneys were great! There are no cysts at all and neither of them are enlarged. Thank God!
This helps the case for the argument that I do not have polycystic kidney disease and that Cole's diagnosis of multicystic dysplastic kidney disease was accurate. What a rollercoaster! Now we just need to keep praying that Aiden's one kidney stays healthy. I'm going to also ask for a referrel to a nephrologist after my next ultrasound so that I can get some questions answered about what will happen when Aiden is born (Will he be rushed to the NICU? Will he have to have tests and scans done immediately? Will we get to take him home like normal? What will his life with only one kidney be like?).
Thanks for your prayers and good thoughts!
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
One of the most common reasons they occur? "Over time it has been proven that most often than not, night terrors in children are caused by sleep deprivation. These cases are cases in which the sleep routine has been broken." (I found info on http://night-terrors-children.com/).
Why am I all of a sudden interested in Night Terrors? On Sunday while we were in Los Angeles, Connor had an episode that can't be explained by anything else. He woke up in a complete panic, screaming on the TOP of his lungs, shaking...didn't want to be touched or held by anyone. This lasted a long time (perhaps 30-40 minutes?). He would not stop screaming or freaking out. We tried everything - putting him in the bath, holding him, rubbing his back, loving him, kissing him, stripping him down to check for a rash, hair wrapped around his toes (remember this), etc. We couldn't determine the cause of the crying. It was almost as if he didn't even see us. So we took him out of the tub (wrapped in just a towel), brought him upstairs, and gave him something to eat. Almost as quickly as he went into a tailspin, he came out of it. He stopped, looked at the grilled cheese, and ate it - happily. Talk about strange!
I came home and did some research and night terrors are all I can come up with. He was sleep deprived - he hadn't slept two complete nights through since we had been in LA. He didn't have his naps at normal times. And even when he was sleeping, it was in an unfamiliar place in a pack-n-play. What I'm mostly trying to figure out is what to do when/if it ever happens again. There seemed to be no way to get him to snap out of it and there's something about seeing your baby boy screaming bloody-murder for 40 straight minutes on the top of his lungs - that freaked this Mama out.
Anybody have any experience with this or have an alternate theory?