Friday, April 6, 2012

Date Days

I know I've talked openly about how important I think dates are for the soul. My hubby and I have been together for eleven years (married 5 of those) and I think sometimes we get swept up in the kids, cleaning, our jobs, the piles of laundry, the to-do's, and the day-to-day occurrences. Doesn't everyone sometimes? We certainly don't have the perfect marriage or the perfect relationship, but we are always trying to make it better. I am no expert on marriage or making things work and I'm sure there are people out there who have been married a lot longer who could give you much better advice, but I know what works for us. The recipe to happiness in our household is simple: 2 parts date nights, 2 parts time with family, 2 parts forgiveness, and 1 part sushi (okay, I'm kidding about the sushi...sorta). I want to do a whole post about this, but I really truly think that the number one thing that makes our marriage work is that I am madly in love with him. I mean head over heels, could kiss him for hours, he's my favorite person in the world - madly in love!

We have had a CRAZY three years: we were both working full-time when our beautiful son Connor was born; Mr. Howard was getting his bachelor's degree at night; we delivered a beautiful precious baby boy who God instantly took to be an angel; we got pregnant with twins; I went into pre-term labor at 30 weeks and was put on strict bedrest; we delivered beautiful twins; we went back to work; Mr. Howard graduated; we worked like crazy and balanced being parents; and Mr. Howard applied, interviewed, and got a new job. Whew! Mr. Howard gave his two weeks' notice and then we found out that they had pushed back Mr. Howard's start date at his new job one week. We calculated the dates and realized that it was during my Spring Break. I have no words! We jumped up and down (I mean, literally, I stood in my kitchen and squealed with delight - jumping up and down)! The last time we had several days of uninterrupted time together as a family was when we were on maternity/paternity leave and were taking care of twin newborns and a two-year-old and getting very little sleep.

Mr. Howard and I discussed the week and decided that we were still going to send the kids into school/daycare (partly so that they wouldn't get off their schedule and selfishly so that we could spend some time together) for three shortened days. We sat down and came up with a list of fun things we were going to do (dates) and then things we needed to get done that we don't normally do (because of three little beautiful lives who tend to interrupt things like steam mopping floors).
And then I called my friend Jen to share the good news and tell her that we were going to get a week together and she said that she really wanted to get us massages and asked if that was okay. Ummmm YES! THANK YOU JEN!! So we scheduled a couples' massage complete with candles, music, comfy robes, a couples suite, strawberries, and RELAXATION. I have no words to describe how heavenly it was.

We tried to get a photo of each excursion.
*Photo Above - After the Massage (hair a mess) heading to Sushi Lunch*
 *Photo Above: Sushi Lunch; Hubby making fun of me because he thought it was ridiculous I was taking a picture of him!*
*Photo Above: Leaving our House to go to see The Hunger Games and an Olive Garden Lunch!
 *Photo Above: In the theatre watching The Vow
*Photo Above: Hubby in the theatre by ourselves!


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