Monday, May 14, 2012

Mothers of Multiples - Pregnancy Experience

I'm linking up with Jen for a series on Mothers of Multiples. This post is a link-up for MoM's on their multiple pregnancy experience.

For those of you new to my blog, I had a beautiful boy (Connor James) in July of 2009. In 2010 I delivered a sleeping baby who went directly to Heaven (Cole Jayden). A few months later, we found out we were pregnant again. This time around I was petrified, over-cautious, and a complete nervous nelly.  Here is the announcement of my pregnancy. On December 15, 2011 we went to the doctor to prayerfully find a heartbeat on our newest third precious baby. The doctor who was with us when we lost Cole looked completely incredulously at us and, shocked, said "Are you ready for this?!?" and turned the screen to show us TWO babies. We had no history of multiples, nor had we taken any fertility drugs. I have no words to describe the complete and utter joy we had while looking at the screen. It was one of the most breathtaking, wonderful moments of my life.

Because I had been pregnant twice before I was pregnant with the twins, I thought I knew what to expect. But it was so different than I thought it would be. It was so different than being pregnant with a singleton. I was bigger faster. I was sicker earlier. I was limited in what I could do SO much earlier.

I refused to complain during this pregnancy. I knew what it was like to hold a beautiful baby in my arms that was no longer alive and I knew what it was like to realize all the complaining meant NOTHING in comparison to having a healthy baby. I told myself that I would carry the babies with a smile on my face and refused to complain about looking fat, or feeling swollen, or stretch marks or any of it. And I think I did a pretty good job. (We'll have to ask my IRL friends). I felt blessed. More than blessed. I was utterly in awe of the miracle that had happened.

On February 24th, we announced to the world that we were having healthy babies and told everyone what gender they were in a video. At that time we believed that the babies had healthy kidneys (our son, Cole, had passed away from multi-cystic dysplastic kidney disease). It wasn't until weeks later that they realized that Aiden (our boy twin) had MCDK in one kidney and Isabella (our girl twin) had a duplicated ureter (we have since learned that both babies' conditions will not seriously impact their lives). It was hard, but we moved forward praying for a continued healthy pregnancy.

Because I went into pre-term labor at 30 weeks, I was put on strict bedrest (STRICT!). I could walk to the couch, stand in the shower for 3-4 minutes, and pee. And that was it! I was not allowed to do any cleaning at all. I was supposed to sit to brush my teeth or do makeup. I was not supposed to answer the door or even get out of bed for lunch or dinner. I was strictly forbidden from even doing my weekly photos (which I still took each week), but on the days I would take the photos, I would take them on my way to my twice-weekly NST appointment (for which I would have to be standing to walk to the car). It was the craziest thing I have ever experienced. And boy-oh-boy was I HUGE. The last time I was measured with the twins (at 35 weeks pregnant), I measured 43 weeks pregnant. I mean, seriously! It was crazy!
But, for the most part, I was so blessed. And, thankfully, our babies waited until 36 weeks to be delivered!! I'll post about the delivery in a separate post.

Here are some pictures from my pregnancy:

** I have no idea why the 20 week photo is not cropping right!**

 Comparison Photo:
My 35 week pregnant picture is my last picture I took formally. My water broke the morning I turned 36 weeks pregant. 

5 comments:

Tickled Pink said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

This was so interesting to read! I'm 18 weeks pregnant with twins right now... and I totally agree- sooo different than with my single baby!! :)

Kristy said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I love reading about your rainbow babies, gives me such hope! I'm so glad they stayed put until 36 weeks. Your family is beautiful!

Amanda said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Hi I'm visiting from the linkup! I'm Amanda from www.thewilkersonway.blogspot.com one of the hostesses from the link up!mive read your blog for a while and love your story! I hope you will continue tomlinkmup!

Tesha said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Oh my goodness your the cutest pregnant girl on the planet :) I love all the twin info how fun! I am so glad they stayed put. I did bed rest for three weeks and it was no fun. I love how happy you look :)

Ashley said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

How exciting it must have been to have twins, I always have thought it would be crazy hard but so much fun to have twins!

Your are gorgeous pregnant woman :)

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