We are in the hardest season of parenting we've had yet. The wonderful thing about seasons is that they come and go. As hard as I was a teenager and as difficult as it must have been for my parents to put up with me, that season didn't last forever ("Thank Goodness!" I am sure my mom would say).
Aiden spends most of the day crying...or throwing temper tantrums...or crying. It is hard. As in, we're taking it moment by moment. He is such an inquisitive, smart boy when he is on, but those same traits are what gets him into trouble. He wants what he wants and hates to be told no. Isn't it funny how we want our kids to be independent and persistent and strong-willed when they're adults, but those same characteristics in a 2-year-old drive us bonkers?!
Isabella and Aiden are typical twins. They love each other and hold hands and feed each other one second and then smack each other on the head the next second. If they aren't fighting over the exact same toy, they're trying to push each other and if they're not doing that, chances are one of them is making the other one cry in a myriad of other ways. I know these are completely typical twin problems (I see questions about it on our facebook Mothers of Multiples group every week!), but man it is exhausting. Just when I think I might explode, one of them rubs the other's back and whispers in their ear and I think, "Oh goodness, I am so lucky to have twins?!?" Ha!
My heart breaks for him. Even though I know why he is acting out, I do not know what do about it, except to be consistent, to catch him being good and to remind him how he should behave. I find myself counting to ten about 4,000 times a day.
And then just as quickly as the fighing over my lap began, they'll do something sweet like feed the other one a pretzel. See photographic evidence below (mainly just to remind myself that occasionally these moments do happen!).
My parents do not remember us acting like this and being this persistent and I only have one friend I see regularly who has a child who is a little older than Connor, so I don't know. I know as bloggers we don't want to get on the computer and write out all the ridiculous things our chilren are doing because then people send us emails saying we're not grateful and boy, that couldn't be further from the truth. I am so grateful and so blessed. So I just continue to feel alone.
What do you do that works? What kinds of parenting strategies do you love? I think I need to re-read Parenting with Love and Logic (but it's packed up - so it'll be a few months before I'll be able to get it).