Tuesday, January 29, 2013
Monday, January 28, 2013
Mr. Howard and I have made it a goal in our marriage to do regular date nights. Those are kinda hard to come by with three small children, but they aren't any less important. In fact, for me, they're even MORE important. So, we got creative and starting coming up with at-home dates. We still call them "date nights," put them on the calendar, and look forward to them all week.
This weekend, my parents went out of town, so we took the opportunity to have two date nights. On Friday after work, we rented Cosmopolis, got pizza and champagne, put the kids to bed, and had a date night cuddling on the couch. It was SOOOO needed. I really cannot say that enough. I am so in love with my husband and it is so easy to get caught up in everything else that I forget that.
We did let Connor eat pizza and milk with us though! Hubby said "cheers" to me and Connor wanted to "cheers" us too! (He has since said "cheers" every time we give him a glass of any liquid! Ha!)
Saturday, January 26, 2013
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Connor has turned into a different little boy in the past few weeks. My funny, smart, inquisitive, soft, tender child has turned into a little rascal. It isn't any more his fault than a teenager who suddenly becomes sullen, antagonistic, and ornery. I get it. It's a part of growing up. It's a stage. And some day I'll look back and miss this stage (right? Isn't that what every mom with an older child tells you when you say, "Ahhhhhhhhh I'm pulling out my hair!!"). But right now, in this moment, I can't think about how I'm going to miss my handsome tiny little three-year-old. All I can think about is how I'm going to survive the next week (let's be honest, I'm really mapping out the next hour, the next five minutes, and sometimes even the next few seconds!). And that's just Connor. Aiden and Isabella have been equally challenging and have upped their temper tantrum quotient ten-fold. It's been a struggle, to say the least. Add in there that all three kids have colds, runny noses, coughs, sore throats, etc. and you have a recipe for a Mommy Insane Asylum. Seriously.
|Yes I'm mean. I took a picture of her having a tantrum. What else was I supposed to do?|
All this difficulty has got me thinking about what kind of mom I am. Is the mom I am consistent with the mom I want to be? It always sounds great in theory to be the mom who never loses her patience, the mom who never yells, the mom who has got it all together. Let me tell you...as much as I'd like to be, I'm not that mom. Which got me thinking all Carrie-esque (remember how she always starts each Sex and the City episode with a question?)...
And the answer to that is: Probably. I'm pretty sure Connor is learning a whole lot more when he sees me lose my patience and then apologize to him. He learns that we all have bad days, but we just need to accept the things we've done, ask for forgiveness, and start fresh. When he sees me cry, he learns sympathy and empathy for others who are struggling. When he sees me try to juggle things and not get everything done, but continue to try to do everything I can for my family - he learns that it's okay to try really hard, stumble, and continue to work at our imperfections. He learns that not everything comes easy to us and sometimes the things that are more valuable are much harder to accomplish.
Somewhere I heard that multiple children (twins, triplets, etc.) learn much earlier than singletons important lessons about patience, realistic expectations, self sufficiency, and a quasi selflessness (I say quasi, because I don't think there is a child out there that isn't somewhat selfish) because, from the time they were born, they had no choice but to wait. Wait for bottles. Wait for diaper changes. Wait for answers. Wait to be held. I'm certain this rumor I've heard was started by other multiple moms to make us all feel better about the fact that our attention is divided between two babies. But it does make sense, right?
Friday, January 18, 2013
I added a page at the top for people wanting to follow our Building a House journey. At some point I will have to take down the Never-Ending House To-Do's link because we no longer live in that house. *Tear!*
Did I mention that the buyers of our old house have already done so much? They have already ripped out the entire landscaping in the front of the house (my hubby is so sad because that was ALWAYS on his to-do list and we never got around to it!); they have torn out of the arch that was in the front; they have torn down the dividing wall separating the 3rd car garage; and they have pulled up all the tile because they are replacing it with hardwood floor (so the entire house will be hardwood!). I haven't driven past it in a little while, but I think I'm going to head over there this afternoon when I pick up the kids from school. Isn't it weird to see the house you lived in for 5 years being remodeled by someone else?!?
In other house news, we received our Gold Cert Approval (the approval our builder needs to build our house)! Once they pull the permits for the house and floorplan and everything with the city, they should be all set to start building.
We also got our plot plan from the engineering firm! We were very excited because we were able to extend our driveway and add three extra feet (making it 20 feet instead of 17). With the hubby having a truck, it seemed to make sense to get the extra driveway space!
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
We also moved the babies out of their baby seats into toddler ones, after they FINALLY met the weight requirements. They are so excited! Aiden, this morning, was smiling every time I turned around to check him out.
Friday, January 11, 2013
Well, we officially sold our house. Wow. That is such a weird sentence to type.
Those 30 days FLEW by! Everyone kept telling me that escrow would NEVER close on time and so, while we were planning on closing in 30 days, we all kinda thought it would take longer than that. But, not only did it close on time, it actually ended up closing a few hours early. Yikes! It was a mad dash to get it all done. Remind me next time we move to take a day off of work (that was the stupidest thing I did - both Mr. Howard and I worked the whole time!). I'll be honest, it was probably the most stressful thing I've done in a long, long, LONG time. Add in there that daycare was closed for the holiday break and so I was trying to pack a house with three little kids at my feet. Things I have learned: (1) I need to be better about asking for help. (2) Take a day or two off of work to move. (3) Be moved out the day before escrow closes rather than cutting it to the last hours. (4) Get a babysitter for moving day!!!!!!!!!!!! (I really cannot say that enough. Mr. Howard moved the entire garage by himself the majority of the time with three kids.)
One thing we did do well was get a Coolbox Portable Storage Device (it's a pod). They deliver it to you on your driveway, you fill it up, they pick it up for you and store it for several months, and then they deliver it to your new address when you're ready for it. So worth it. The only problem was that we got a 20 x 8 x 8 and it was not big enough. They always say "it can fit four bedrooms!" but what they mean is, "it can fit four bedrooms if you have absolutely no furniture in two of the bedrooms. Eeek. Our neighbors (who are sooooo wonderful!!!!) are holding onto so much stuff for us until we move. Tell me that is not amazing?!? We are so thankful.
I have been writing on this blog since the day we bought the house and I have documented everything house related - from complex remodels to simple paint changes. I even had a to-do list that was always evolving on the blog. I wanted to do a final post and show you all what the house looked like in the minutes before we handed over the keys and locked the door for the very last time.
Our eat-in kitchen area and kitchen:
What we did in master bedroom: Fixed one wall (there was a built-in fireplace box - no actual fireplace - that we had to rip out), drywalled, textured wall, installed new carpet in master closet; repaired hard wood floor.
The hallway standing in the master bedroom:
Front living room:
I've mentioned this before, but this is the seventh move Mr. Howard and I have done together. We are certainly not new to packing up and moving, but this was a different experience for us.
We have felt so wonderfully blessed in that home. It is the house we brought our babies home to; the home we celebrated birthdays in; the rooms we laughed and cried in...fought in, and danced in; the walls that heard our celebrations as we became a family of three, four, and then finally six; the floors our dogs ran and played on, the same floor our babies first crawled on, later took their first steps on; and finally ran on; the windows we peeked out of while dreaming, praying, and desperately wishing for a baby; the carpet that soaked my tears as I cried and cried and cried over Cole; the bath that held us on our "bath dates" in the winter; the sinks that held all three of our newborns for their first baths; and so many more memories. We were so lucky to have such a beautiful shell as our first home.
As sad as we were to hand over the keys, we know that we will create new memories and new stories in our new home and are excited for all those adventures to come.