This July 14th, we celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary. It's hard to believe we've been married for 7 years!! On August 1st, we'll actually celebrate 10 years since we got engaged. That is crazy to me. We usually try to do adventurous things for our anniversary, but this year we hosted a bunch of people for the twins' birthday and then our anniversary fell on the Monday afterwards.
And, of course, we just got back from an amazing trip, that we called our anniversary trip, a month ago. So we are ridiculously blessed.
Marriage is hard. It's the hardest thing I've ever done in my whole life. But it is by far the ABSOLUTE most rewarding thing I have ever worked at. I think because we went into marriage thinking it was going to be a priority and something we'd have to work at - we're happy. I think if we had gone into it thinking that we were just going to effortlessly stay married and in love for the rest of our lives, we would have been disappointed. Because it takes work to stay in love. It takes work to be happy. It takes work to stay married. Fun work, of course. But work. Dates. Reconnecting. Compromise. Lots of talking. More compromise. Communication. I laugh about the bachelor because it's easy to be in love and happy when there's no stress. When Mr. Howard and I went on our vacation without kids, we did not fight once. Not one argument. Not one frustration. Not one sideway glance or sarcastic reply. We were like newlyweds all giggly in love, all over each other - sneaking kisses when no one was looking on the elevator, rushing up to the room in the middle of the day. Because we didn't have any stress. Our kids were taken care of...we weren't paying bills...or cleaning the house...or writing to-do lists...or getting by on only a little sleep. We weren't stressed after a long day of work...or a long day at home with the kids...or a long day of a million errands. It was easy because we weren't in real life. The true testament to a relationship is how you get along when you're in real life with real stresses, with real problems. That's true love. And I can honestly say that after FOURTEEN years with my husband, we have figured out how to have a relationship in real life. It doesn't mean it won't take more work; it doesn't mean I have it all figured out or have all the answers. But it means I know that we will have to work at it every day for the rest of our lives if we want to stay happily married. And there's no one I'd rather work at it with than this handsome man.
July 14, 2007